So I drew a deep breath and I clicked "submit." With that small keystroke, my life could change dramatically or it could not change at all. I don't know about you, but that thought scares me to death! I put my heart and soul into a resume, a cover letter, and thoughtful answers to a bevy of electronic questions that may or may not get me to the next level: the interview.

So now, I wait. I second guess. I run. I lift weights. I annoy my family with my lunacy. And then I realize that at this point there is nothing I can do except wait - patiently.

My worry has officially been interrupted by the official duties of military life.

It is PCS season, which means it is also change of command season. This brings new commanders into the unit as well as new Family Readiness Group leaders.

Last week I attended the first steering committee for my husband’s unit with our new leadership. Though I was attending as a spouse, and not the FRG leader, I was quickly reminded of my days serving as the FRG leader. 

Being an FRG leader can be challenging but it can also be immensely rewarding. If you are a new FRG leader, new to the unit or new to being a leader, remember to do a lot of listening! Ask your members what they need, what they like and how they define success. Don't forget to ask the commander the same questions! After all, it is his or her program.

If you are an outgoing leader, or you are staying onboard to help, remember that just because things haven't worked in the past doesn't mean they won't work with new people. You should give the wisdom of your experience without killing the spirit of the new people.

And remember that the new combination of people and personalities may just be the lynchpin that holds all of the hinges together.

So for now, "I throw my hands up in the air sometimes. Sayin ayo. Gotta let go."

Strength and Courage ... sby